Sleep 911 with The Baby Sleep Whisperer – 9/13/12

Baby Sleep - Sleep Training SwaddleSleep is so incredibly important for our children’s emotional and physical development. Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer and the Woombie’s Resident Child Sleep Expert, knows the importance of sleep because of her personal experience of being a mom of two and because of the many families she has helped achieve sleep bliss. Ingrid is making it her mission to empower as many sleepless parents as possible so they can teach their little ones how to become healthy sleepers. Here are the new Sleep 911 Q&A we received:

QUESTION:

I read in “On becoming babywise” that at 4 months of age, babies should be taking 3 naps, but by 6 months they can switch to 2 naps a day. Does this sound pretty accurate? I’m just worried that my baby may not be sleeping all night because of the 3rd nap of the day. It could be that she only eats 4 feedings a day. I am also trying to move her schedule around to get a 5th feeding in there to help her sleep better at night too. She does sleep through the night but not every night. She is 4 months old.

Grace, Maryland

ANSWER:

Hi Grace,

Hi Grace, thank you for submitting your question. Three solid naps are advised for a child that is around 4 months old. The three naps a day does not end at 6 months of age, it is just not a requirement if your child is sleep well, at least an hour, for first and second nap. Third nap is a tool you keep in your back pocket when the morning and afternoon nap do not go well. As she gets closer to a year old, you will notice that both of her naps will be about an hour and a half to two hours in length so a third nap will most likely not need to be offered. Third nap should end by 4pm from 4 months of age and up so it does not affect biological sleep time. Remember that many babies your daughters age still wake up once a night, it is possible to have them sleep through the night but it’s not unusual to have one waking.

I will also send you an email with this information.

Warm Regards,
Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer

QUESTION:

My son, 4 months old, naps only 30 minutes at a time. 3-4 times a day. What can I do to extend his naps? I’ve tried swaddling, darkening the room, holding him in my arms, not holding him in my arms. No success 🙁 He sleeps great at night, for 12 hours, with 1-2 feedings, but the naps are really short. Please help.

Anna, Texas

ANSWER:

Hi Anna,

Thank you for submitting your question. A 4 month old that only takes 30 minutes naps is so common but there are things we can do to teach them to sleep longer. As we all know, sleep is so important and the more consolidated sleep they get the better. It’s wonderful that he is getting 12 hours of sleep at night. The 30 minutes of sleep during naps can be a product of when he is going down for each nap. It’s important to put him down at the right biological sleep time. Ideally, first nap will take place around 9, second nap around noon and third nap around 3 but no later than 4pm. Bedtime should take place around 3 hours from the time she woke up from her last nap, providing each nap, except 3rd nap, is an hour in length. 3rd nap is typically short in length, so 30 minutes is fine for that nap.

I will also send you an email with this information.

Warm Regards,
Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer

QUESTION:

I have 9 month old twin girls. One of my twins refuses to sleep even when she’s tired. We had her crib trained but now she won’t sleep in her crib and when I put her in my bed she plays until she finally passes out with lots of tossing turning and crying. Even through the night she wakes up multipul times for either a pacifer a bottle or just to play. She might nap during the day for 20 mins to maybe an hour if I’m really lucky (Which most of the time I’m not.) I know she’s tired but, she just won’t sleep.”

Andria, Arkansas

ANSWER:

Hi Andria,

Thank you so much for submitting your question. It makes sense that her naps are not going well since her night sleep is not consolidated. First, we need to make sure that she is getting enough calories throughout the day to sustain her through the night, which she may already be getting but just wanted to touch upon that just in case she is not. Second, if she has any medical issues then this could be playing into her lack of consolidated sleep. Third, there needs to be consistency in the approach used to soothe her. Fourth, are you putting her down at the right biological sleep times, around 9 and noon? Are you offering a third nap since first and second nap are not at least an hour in length? What may work for one twin may not work for the other. Fifth, you need to put her down for an extra early bedtime since she is not sleeping most of the day. Please try the above suggestions and let me know if you need one-on-one help. She can become a better sleeper!

I will also send you an email with this information.

Warm Regards,
Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer

QUESTION:

My 3 1/2 month old son will go the whole night with out nursing, but always wakes up in the middle of the night. I normally nurse him at 9:30 and put him to bed right after, and then he will wake up around 2am and want to cuddle with me. He will go back to sleep if I put him in bed with me, which I know is not the best thing. I can’t figure out how to get him to go back to sleep with out me getting him out of his bed. I know he’s not hungry, cause he does go back to sleep once he’s with me. Any ideas on what I can try to help him stay asleep.

Jessica, Kentucky

ANSWER:

Hi Jessica,

Thank you so much for submitting your question. I encourage you to put him to bed much earlier than 9:30 pm. Around 3.5 months old it’s ideal to get them down between 7 and 8pm. You might even notice that he starts getting fussy around 6:30 or so. This could be the reason for the night waking. It’s wonderful that he can go without a feed until morning since he is still itty bitty. As for it being not the best thing for him to sleep with you, well, that is a personal decision that I believe only the parents should make. There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping if it works for your family. If you prefer not to do it then that is totally fine. The best you can do, since you want to keep him in his crib, is try to soothe him while he is inside of his crib. Try shushing while putting your hand on his chest to comfort him and let him know you are there. If that doesn’t work then try to place him on his side and pat his bum while shushing as well. Last resort is picking him up, if he is hysterical, and calming him down. Place him over your shoulder and wait until he calms down, once you feel his body go limp then try placing him in his crib sleepy but awake. You will want to place him in his crib sleepy but awake before all sleep times. Please try the above suggestions and let me know if you need one-on-one help. I would be happy to help.

I will also send you an email with this information.

Warm Regards,
Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer

Thank you to all those who submitted a question and if you need additional help with your situation and you would like to join the many happy and rested parents I have helped, please email at sleepconsultant@woombie.com so I can provide you with my sleep consulting package options.

 

The Baby Sleep WhispererSleep 911 Q&A by Ingrid Prueher, The Baby Sleep Whisperer and Woombie’s Resident Child Sleep Expert

Ingrid Prueher is the founder of The Baby Sleep Whisperer (after affectionately being named that by her clients), a child sleep consulting service that helps lessen expecting and new parents stress and empowers them so they can teach their babies how to become amazing sleepers. Ingrid is a certified Family Sleep Institute Child Sleep Consultant, Certified Stress Management Coach, Certified educator for Dunstan Baby Language, Certified educator for Happiest Baby on the Block, a Certified Newborn Care Specialist and a Parenting Educator. She is also the founder of Parent Prep Classes.

Ingrid resides in Fairfield, CT with her husband and two boys. She runs a private practice where she meets with parents one-on-one and over the phone. Ingrid is a sought-after expert and has been featured in US News and World Report, NY Daily News, Hartford Courant, Examiner.com, New York Family magazine, Fox CT, The Better Connecticut show and Australia’s Triple M -The Cage Radio Show. Ingrid is a member of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, National Sleep Foundation, American Sleep Association and The International Stress Management Association (UK).

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