3 Tips for First Time Moms To Get More Snuggle and Less Struggle
If you're a first time mom, hopefully you are on cloud nine in blissful new baby heaven, but if you're struggling at all, which is more common than you might realize, here are a few things to consider so that you can regain a sense of well-being in your life.
- Unify Team Mom and Dad
He's been your rock since the moment he got down on one knee and gave you that pear shaped engagement ring. Now, you have an entirely new test to your commitment to each other with a little one on the way. For many couples, having a baby is an exciting time to come together as a couple and create an even stronger bond. But, unfortunately, that's not true for every couple. Some new dads find the stress of having a baby to care for overwhelming. Get him to talk to you about how he feels. Is he stressed, excited, happy, or even sad? For some dads, working through some of their own childhood trauma is a must before they can join the parent team with you on every level. A dad with trauma issues may check out of family life emotionally, mentally, and physically when a new baby arrives. Recognize the signs of trouble and get that man to counseling. You need him now more than ever to be on your team. Facing motherhood for the first time without dad's support is not ideal for mom or baby.
- Nourish Yourself
When it comes to nourishing yourself, this obviously means eating plenty of healthy food, but it also includes doing activities that nourish you, like getting exercise and spending time with friends. It's easy for first time moms to be preoccupied with the baby and forget about herself and the other relationships in her life. You might need to find creative ways to include baby in many of your activities now, but don't neglect the things and people that have been important to you. Don't neglect yourself for the sake of your new baby. Not only will you feel more exhausted, neglecting yourself may also lead to feeling subconscious resentment toward your baby or even your partner. Spending time with friends and doing things you enjoy helps you to feel energized and balanced as a new mom. Find that mom-friendly yoga class, go on that coffee date with the girls, and make time for you.
- Get Support
We always hope for enjoyable experiences with our babies, but the truth is that it isn't always so, and your regular community or support network may not know how to understand or help with some of the issues you might face. Sleep deprivation is a huge issue for new moms. It can affect your mood and alter your personality. While it might be tempting to catch up on work when your new baby is napping, opt to give yourself nap time too. If you have trouble falling asleep, just force yourself to rest in bed. Reading a book or meditating can be restful too. If your baby is not sleeping normally, there could be health issues involved. Consult with your doctor or hire a sleep trainer to see if you can help your baby sleep better so that you can get the sleep you need.
If you are breastfeeding, that can also carry with it problems, including latch issues, sore nipples, plugged ducts, and low milk supply issues. Breastfeeding issues can be very difficult for ordinary people to understand, especially if they have never struggled with breastfeeding. Find a helpful lactation consultant and check with your pediatrician to make sure the baby does not have a physical issue that is making feeding difficult for you.
In summary, being a new mom is a beautiful time, even with the normal and natural challenges it brings. It is a time to be especially kind to yourself and call on the support you need to keep you and baby happy.
